Maybe you were married for 30 or 40 years. Maybe it's been a long time since you were single, or you've been on your own for a while and now feel ready for company. Whatever brought you here, starting to date again after 60 can feel daunting. It doesn't need to be.
Step 1: Decide what you're looking for
Before you write a word, think about what would make you happy. Someone to share days out with? A companion for the evenings? A loving relationship? Friendship first and see where it goes? There's no wrong answer, but knowing yours makes everything else easier.
Step 2: Choose a photo
A recent, clear photo of your face makes the biggest difference. Natural daylight works best; try outdoors or by a window. Ask a friend or grandchild to take a few, smile, and pick the one that looks most like you on a good day. Add one or two more showing you doing something you enjoy.
Step 3: Write a profile that sounds like you
Forget clichés like "I enjoy laughing and going out". Be specific instead. For example:
"Retired teacher, grandmother of three and keen gardener. Happiest on a coastal walk followed by fish and chips. Looking for someone kind with a good sense of humour to share days out and quiet evenings."
A few honest, specific lines give people something to reply to.
Step 4: Start conversations
Mention something from their profile: "I see you love the Lake District. Do you have a favourite walk?" Questions keep a conversation going. Don't worry if not everyone replies. That's normal, and it's not a judgement on you.
Step 5: Video call, then meet
Once you're comfortable, suggest a short video call. It's the easiest way to check that someone is genuine and that you get on. Then arrange to meet somewhere public in the daytime, like a café, a garden or a light lunch. Make your own way there, tell someone where you're going, and keep the first meeting short and relaxed.
Step 6: Be kind to yourself
Not every date will lead somewhere, and that's fine. Each conversation makes the next one easier. If you've lost a partner, you may feel a pang of guilt or sadness along the way; many people do, and it's alright to go slowly.
Getting started on Over 60 Love
Joining is free, and so are browsing, daily match suggestions and a limited number of messages each day. The text on our pages is large and adjustable with the A buttons at the top of the page, and our support team is there 24/7 if you need a hand. When you're ready, read our guides to dating in your 60s, in your 70s and in your 80s.
Frequently asked questions
Is it normal to feel nervous about dating again after 60?
Completely. Most people starting again after a long relationship feel nervous. Taking it one step at a time helps.
What should I say in my first message?
Mention something from the other person's profile and ask a question about it. It shows you've read it and gives them something easy to answer.
How soon should I meet someone?
When you feel ready. Many people chat for a little while and have a video call before meeting in a public place.
Do I need a professional photo?
No. A clear, recent photo in natural light, taken by a friend or family member, works perfectly.